10 Life Lessons I Learned in High School

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

As my high school experience comes to a close, I can't help but reflect on all the good and bad that has come with this four-year roller coaster of life. High school has definitely been an adventure; even though it did not consist of dancing on tables and singing while playing basketball (a major disappointment), I did my best to make these four years worth my time. And I am happy to say that I will be walking out of high school not just with more knowledge on different academic subjects, but also with life lessons that I will remember forever. Here are the most important lessons I learned during my time in high school...

1. People you were once friends with are going to go their separate ways.
You are going to change over the years, and you may grow apart from the people you were once incredibly close with. Those friends you started freshmen year with may not be by your side anymore when you are walking out the front doors on your last day of senior year, and that's completely okay.

2. You need to try new things to find what you're interested in. If you believe there is something that you would enjoy doing, do it and don't worry about how it will affect other aspects of your life.
You need to do what you enjoy doing. If you lose friends over the activities or extracurriculars you enjoy participating in, then they either never respected your interests to begin with or you were just meant to grow apart. I can guarantee you will find new friends if this happens. And if your family dislikes what you choose to pursue also, then just do your best to convince them to at least respect what you enjoy.

3. Problems happen and they happen for a reason. Friendships end for a reason; fix them at your own risk.
Friendships are going to have their problems; some are going to be fixable whereas others are going to mean the end. Be honest with people about the way you feel and if you both can't reach a compromise, then it may be time to say goodbye. Remember that everything happens for a reason. However, if you do manage to fix the problem, just be aware of what you could be possibly putting yourself through once again in the future.

4. If you really don't want someone in your life, you shouldn't feel bad about cutting them out of it.
If someone is toxic to you and you don't think they deserve you in their life, just cut them out of yours. Don't worry about how they would feel about it either; your own happiness is more important than theirs. They will find new happiness elsewhere eventually.

5. Your work should be the most important thing to you.
People will come and go - GPA is forever. This will be the same in college and also when GPA is no longer the focus in the workforce when you have a job one day.

6. There are always going to be people who don't like you. These people aren't worth your worries.
Whether you know it or not, there is always someone. They don't have to make it known if they don't want to. They could hate you for the dumbest reason in the world if they want to also. Don't let them bother you because eventually they'll just be nonexistent in your life anyway.

7. Focus on YOUR life and what YOU want to do and who YOU want to be.
Don't worry about what other people are doing, don't worry about who other people are with, don't worry about anything that has to do with other people period. Don't waste your time worrying about other people and their business; that just leaves you caught up with unnecessary stress and issues that you brought upon yourself by trying to get inside other peoples' lives and not caring more about your own.

8. You're going to make mistakes, both big and small. It's all a part of life, and these turn into valuable lessons for the future.
Accept your mistakes, fix them to the best of your abilities and proceed on with your life, never forgetting what they taught you.

9. It's better to just be the bigger person.
You don't have to waste your time with drama if you don't want to. You don't have to let someone ruin your happiness if you don't want them to. Tell someone how you feel and leave it at that; if they choose to continue arguing with you after you have both made your points and you have said the argument is done, maybe you need to reconsider their presence in your life. They wouldn't continue if they actually cared.

10. You need to have a plan, even if it is vague and rough.
You shouldn't walk out of high school with no idea of where you think you want to be in a few years. Research all possible interests and start at least trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together; don't be that person who isn't allowed to continue down the road to success because they're more lost than the average person.

Did you take anything valuable from your years in school? Let us all know in the comments below. I am glad to finally be finishing one book and opening a new one; I honestly can't wait to see what my college years will have to teach me. I will be sure to incorporate all the lessons I have learned in high school throughout my years in college and especially the rest of my life. As Aldous Huxley once said, "Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him."


  1. Loved this post! I have to agree with almost all of them - especially number two. It's so important to not let anything get it the way of your dreams. :)


  2. I love this advice Hailey! I have learned that high school is tough, but it can also be a lot of fun! I love the tip of "be the bigger person", I always try to remember that!


  3. Seriously love this post. Such great advice Hailey, especially the friendships!

    xo Maria | essentially-maria.blogspot.com


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